Fight For Love Ministries

brings hope and truth

to women battling porn in their relationships

Without the right tools and the right information, couples normally flounder around for years, until pain and sheer desperation drive them to seek help. However, this does not have to be your story. You don’t have to wait until your marriage is on the verge of a divorce, and you are on the brink of a nervous breakdown, to take action.

By availing yourself of our resources, community, and recommended avenues of help, you can take biblically-based, proactive action to take back your marriage from porn. And by doing so, whether your husband decides to get into recovery or not, your own life and the lives of your children will drastically improve.

Begin Your Fight For Love

How to Fight For Love

in 3 steps...

Evil has infiltrated our households, is infecting our husbands and children, and perhaps even ourselves. Is God really asking us to be silent? To sit back and watch our marriages and lives disintegrate? Or is He calling us to rise up and tear down the idols of porn within our homes?
- Fight For Love

Fight For Love Ministries brings hope and truth

to women battling porn in their relationships

Without the right tools and the right information, couples normally flounder around for years, until pain and sheer desperation drive them to seek help. However, this does not have to be your story. You don’t have to wait until your marriage is on the verge of a divorce, and you are on the brink of a nervous breakdown, to take action.

By availing yourself of our resources, community, and recommended avenues of help, you can take biblically-based, proactive action to take back your marriage from porn. And by doing so, whether your husband decides to get into recovery or not, your own life and the lives of your children will drastically improve.

Begin Your Fight For Love

How to Fight For Love

in 3 steps...

Evil has infiltrated our households, is infecting our husbands and children, and perhaps even ourselves. Is God really asking us to be silent? To sit back and watch our marriages and lives disintegrate? Or is He calling us to rise up and tear down the idols of porn within our homes?
- Fight For Love

Get Educated

The key to making the switch from fighting against your husband to fighting porn with your husband is getting educated. We are not excusing his behavior, but understanding how your husband’s brain has been hijacked by his addiction, and your own brain by betrayal trauma, does help make sense of the craziness and help you form your plan of attack. In order to stand firm in this battle and fight effectively, it helps enormously to understand exactly what you are dealing with. We have many resources to get you up to speed fast.

Get Connected

Now that you have your plan, you need to find your people. Our Fight For Love Fellowship group enables you to test the water and experience a recovery community without having to commit to anything. We have over 1000 women currently in the group. Some are married, some engaged, some dating, and some in the process of getting divorced or are divorced.

We are confidential, positive, and highly supportive. This is the perfect place to ask questions anonymously.

Get Help

The final, and most crucial step is finding yourself an experienced guide to help you navigate the turbulent and unfamiliar waters of early recovery. When choosing a qualified and experienced therapist/ coach/ group/ ministry there are many available options.

To find you the right help check out our recommended provider directory.

Get Educated

The key to making the switch from fighting against your husband to fighting porn with your husband is getting educated. We are not excusing his behavior, but understanding how your husband’s brain has been hijacked by his addiction, and your own brain by betrayal trauma, does help make sense of the craziness and help you form your plan of attack. In order to stand firm in this battle and fight effectively, it helps enormously to understand exactly what you are dealing with. We have many resources to get you up to speed fast.

Get Connected

Now that you have your plan, you need to find your people. Our Fight For Love Fellowship group enables you to test the water and experience a recovery community without having to commit to anything. We have over 1000 women currently in the group. Some are married, some engaged, some dating, and some in the process of getting divorced or are divorced.

We are confidential, positive, and highly supportive. This is the perfect place to ask questions anonymously.

Get Help

The final, and most crucial step is finding yourself an experienced guide to help you navigate the turbulent and unfamiliar waters of early recovery. When choosing a qualified and experienced therapist/ coach/ group/ ministry there are many available options.

To find you the right help check out our recommended provider directory.

Are you ready to step
into the light and fight?

We are a community of Christian women who have linked arms to create resources and fellowship to show you that you are not alone, that a porn-free marriage is possible, and that it is worth fighting for.

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the Podcast

Are you ready to step
into the light and fight?

We are a community of Christian women who have linked arms to create resources and fellowship to show you that you are not alone, that a porn-free marriage is possible, and that it is worth fighting for.

Listen to the Podcast

Why we Fight For Love...

I am beyond thankful for your podcast and book. I'm already on episode 50 (in just 2 weeks!) and it has helped me tremendously. We found a CSAT & groups willing to work with our budget, and we're starting this week. Because of you, I knew the right help to seek and I have hope. Thank you, thank you!

Amanda

These ladies have kept me from losing my marbles for sure. They knew exactly how I was feeling! I’m pretty sure if I needed bail money someone from this site would show. They are that helpful and committed!

FFL member

The group has been a refuge and place of encouragement as I find my way and stumble along on this journey.

Marisa-Claire

It has been a huge relief to have information about pornography and how to tackle this to save my marriage.

Isabel

I have been ministered to greatly by Rosie's book and podcast. It was one of the big motivators in my fight for love in my marriage.

Janelle

I’ve done it all. The books, the blocking software. None of it was enough. Then my husband told me about this book. I bought it the same day. Quite literally, this has set up my marriage for success (possibly saving us from divorce).

Anonymous

Even though my husband didn't choose recovery, this ministry saved MY life. I would have still been trying to apply the outdated advice of "just have more sex" rather than educating myself and putting up boundaries had I not found this group. Thank you.

Amy L

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Fight For Love episode

Why we Fight For Love...

I am beyond thankful for your podcast and book. I'm already on episode 50 (in just 2 weeks!) and it has helped me tremendously. We found a CSAT & groups willing to work with our budget, and we're starting this week. Because of you, I knew the right help to seek and I have hope. Thank you, thank you!

Amanda

These ladies have kept me from losing my marbles for sure. They knew exactly how I was feeling! I’m pretty sure if I needed bail money someone from this site would show. They are that helpful and committed!

FFL member

The group has been a refuge and place of encouragement as I find my way and stumble along on this journey.

Marisa-Claire

It has been a huge relief to have information about pornography and how to tackle this to save my marriage.

Isabel

I have been ministered to greatly by Rosie's book and podcast. It was one of the big motivators in my fight for love in my marriage.

Janelle

I’ve done it all. The books, the blocking software. None of it was enough. Then my husband told me about this book. I bought it the same day. Quite literally, this has set up my marriage for success (possibly saving us from divorce).

Anonymous

Even though my husband didn't choose recovery, this ministry saved MY life. I would have still been trying to apply the outdated advice of "just have more sex" rather than educating myself and putting up boundaries had I not found this group. Thank you.

Amy L

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Fight For Love episode

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Betrayal Trauma affects us on so many levels. It affects your emotional, spiritual, social, physical, and sexual health. Many partners experience moderate to severe levels of post-traumatic stress disorder with the following reported symptoms: hypervigilance, sleeplessness, irritability, inability to focus, depression, numbness, and obsessive thoughts. Living with an addict is a stressful experience - deception, deflection, emotional and sometimes sexual neglect. When your husband is an active addict, you do not have the partner you long for.
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. Pornography addiction is a real problem with ver

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Pornography addiction is a real problem with very real consequences. The goal of the person struggling with unwanted sexual behavior is to protect their supply and hide their behavior which often means that they deflect blame onto you and minimize their own brokenness.
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#pornaddiction #addictiontoporn #faq #pornisadrug #pornisaproblem #conseguences #unwantedsexualbehavior #hide #deflecttheblame #minimize #fightforlove #fightforloveministries #sexualbrokenness #unwantedbehavior

. No matter what you may have been told, you did n

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No matter what you may have been told, you did not cause your spouse's addiction. There is nothing you can do to cure their addiction and you are not able to control their addiction. The problem and the cure lie with the addict alone. Did God blame Eve for Adam’s eating of the fruit? No. We are all held accountable for our own sin. Nothing you do or didn’t do is justification for your husband drinking from the demonic well of pornography.
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#notyourfault #youdidntcauseit #youcantcontrolit #youcantcureit #pornhurtsothers #dontblameyourself #nomoreguilt #hisaddictionisnotbecauseofyou #evilofporn #fightforlove #sinofporn #pornblamesothers

. Our first Fight For Love retreat is in the books

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Our first Fight For Love retreat is in the books. We had been waiting for this retreat for so long and last weekend we finally got to meet as a team and hug each other in person. We were surrounded by the beautiful San Bernardino Mountains of Southern California, where we spent our time talking, sharing, worshiping, and praying. The in-person experience allowed us to enjoy deep fellowship. It was truly an experience that will last a lifetime.
We are hoping and praying for such community and fellowship for each one of you as you journey on your path to healing.

We are very thankful to @hume.socal for welcoming us to their camp and providing us with a wonderful and comfortable log cabin, spacious grounds to explore, and very delicious meals to keep us nourished.
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#fightforlove #fightforloveministries #retreat #fellowship #growningtogether

@fightforloveministries

. Betrayal Trauma affects us on so many levels. I

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Betrayal Trauma affects us on so many levels. It affects your emotional, spiritual, social, physical, and sexual health. Many partners experience moderate to severe levels of post-traumatic stress disorder with the following reported symptoms: hypervigilance, sleeplessness, irritability, inability to focus, depression, numbness, and obsessive thoughts. Living with an addict is a stressful experience - deception, deflection, emotional and sometimes sexual neglect. When your husband is an active addict, you do not have the partner you long for.
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#betrayaltrauma #healing #betrayaltraumarecovery #betrayed #liedto #deception #trauma #ptsd #stress #spiritualhealth #emtionalhealth #physicalhealth #socialhealth #sexualhealth #pornaddiction #sexualbrokenness #deflection #hypervigilance #depression #pornaffectsrelationships #pornkillslove #fightforlove

. Pornography addiction is a real problem with ver

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Pornography addiction is a real problem with very real consequences. The goal of the person struggling with unwanted sexual behavior is to protect their supply and hide their behavior which often means that they deflect blame onto you and minimize their own brokenness.
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#pornaddiction #addictiontoporn #faq #pornisadrug #pornisaproblem #conseguences #unwantedsexualbehavior #hide #deflecttheblame #minimize #fightforlove #fightforloveministries #sexualbrokenness #unwantedbehavior

. No matter what you may have been told, you did n

.
No matter what you may have been told, you did not cause your spouse's addiction. There is nothing you can do to cure their addiction and you are not able to control their addiction. The problem and the cure lie with the addict alone. Did God blame Eve for Adam’s eating of the fruit? No. We are all held accountable for our own sin. Nothing you do or didn’t do is justification for your husband drinking from the demonic well of pornography.
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#notyourfault #youdidntcauseit #youcantcontrolit #youcantcureit #pornhurtsothers #dontblameyourself #nomoreguilt #hisaddictionisnotbecauseofyou #evilofporn #fightforlove #sinofporn #pornblamesothers

. Our first Fight For Love retreat is in the books

.
Our first Fight For Love retreat is in the books. We had been waiting for this retreat for so long and last weekend we finally got to meet as a team and hug each other in person. We were surrounded by the beautiful San Bernardino Mountains of Southern California, where we spent our time talking, sharing, worshiping, and praying. The in-person experience allowed us to enjoy deep fellowship. It was truly an experience that will last a lifetime.
We are hoping and praying for such community and fellowship for each one of you as you journey on your path to healing.

We are very thankful to @hume.socal for welcoming us to their camp and providing us with a wonderful and comfortable log cabin, spacious grounds to explore, and very delicious meals to keep us nourished.
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.
#fightforlove #fightforloveministries #retreat #fellowship #growningtogether