9. Tools of Recovery Part 2: Partner Assessment

The Partner Response Survey is a self-assessment form that helps you identify ways that your husband’s compulsive porn use has affected you mentally, physically, sexually, and spiritually. In a supervised session, you read your answers aloud, and your husband is not permitted to respond or defend himself. He simply has to hear you. Without name-calling or blaming, you express your hurt, pain, frustration, anger, and disgust without fear of contradiction or reprisal. Exploring how your husband’s porn addiction has affected you is critical for your healing. Sharing it with your husband in a safe and controlled environment is also crucial for his healing. In terms of building intimacy and restoring trust, feeling able to expressing how you feel is key. Filling in the Partner Assessment helps facilitates a hard honest conversation that has to happen.